Why are we here?
The friend bucket – one of the easiest ones to let go as you get older. Let’s be honest, it’s hard making friends as an adult for many of us. You no longer are forced to make friends like in school.
The importance of the relationship (friend) bucket
One of the first things to leave, but one of the most important as you go through life. Good friends are good for your life.
It’s easy to grow further and further apart as you don’t need to call upon this bucket every day, however, there are many benefits to have it full.
- There for the good times
- There for the bad times
- Help encourage you
- Help cope with traumas
- Reduce stress
- Have an outlet
We have more access to our friends then before due to social media, however, it also means we don’t have to interact to check to see how they’re doing. Take a peek at their Facebook or Instagram feed and we can get caught up!
Source: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/friendships/art-20044860
Ways to fill the relationship (friend) bucket
- To turn this bucket around you to be INTENTIONAL with your efforts
- Much like you have date nights with your spouse to help fill that bucket, consider having friends nights to fill your friendship/relationship bucket.
- Doesn’t have to be in person
- Could be something as simple as video games
- GChat
- Monthly happy hours
- Double dates
- Doesn’t have to be in person
- Take time to reach out to them other than holidays and birthdays – schedule reminders if you need to!
- Build rituals
- Yearly trips
Kallweit Call to Action
Take a moment today and think about what your normal friendship connections look like. Now, what would be the next level above that? If you normally only chat on video games, maybe you go to happy hour. Whatever level you’re at right now, take it up one notch to add some energy to your bucket.
